A time of Christmas
In the meantime, love it or loathe it … there are the practical aspects that come with the Christmas Season. Even if you’re feeling on top of the world the expectation to deliver the perfect Christmas can be stressful – and if you’re already fighting your own personal battle with cancer – it can seem overwhelming.
Present buying, choosing the tree, decorating the house, food planning, shopping, baking, crafting, partying, drinking, present wrapping, Christmas stockings, who’s coming, seating plans, relative pacifying …. STOP! It’s not all up to you … in fact this year we suggest you do as little as you can get away with.
The art of delegation
Some people are naturals, they seem to off-load everything with so much grace and charm that the people around them hardly realise what’s happening, until it’s too late. We all need to learn this useful life skill – especially when we’re feeling under the weather. We’ve put together a quick and easy guide on ‘How to Delegate Like a Pro’ to help you lighten the load:
- Who are your Christmas helpers? Family, friends, work colleagues, neighbours, church members, people from clubs you go to … anyone with a kind heart, a bit of time, and who you think you can rely on. Prepare them first – ask them whether they’d mind giving you a helping hand this year with a few tasks that you’re finding a bit much.
- Make a list of tasks. There’s nothing like a bit of forward planning and organisation to help you see the wood from the trees. Write everything down: presents, decorating, cooking, cleaning, shopping, wrapping, Christmas Cards and invitations that need responding to.
- Make someone responsible for each task. Assign someone from your ‘Christmas helpers’ to each task. Try to even things out a bit – don’t overload one person – but don’t make it ambiguous who you’re asking, that way it’s more likely to get done.
- Ask, don’t order. It’ may sound obvious but people will be far more willing to go out of their way if you ask for their help rather than expecting it – and always show how appreciative you are. They’ll be pleased to help you again.
- Take it online: Set up a Christmas WhatsApp group amongst your closest friends and family. If you've forgotten anything last-minute you can send a quick request to everyone ‘Anyone going to the supermarket – I’ve forgotten the pickled onions!’. And do as much of your shopping online – from the comfort of your own sofa create your present list and order the bulk of your Christmas food shop.
- Take your foot off the control. Take a chill pill. If the decorations aren’t exactly to your liking – at least they’re up. If the tree is a bit shorter than normal – it makes the room look bigger. If the Christmas Cake is iced differently – enjoy the change. If the cleaning isn’t quite as sparkling as you’d like – take your glasses off! Remember other people’s idea of perfect will no doubt be different to yours.
- Don’t be afraid to say NO. You don’t need to accept every invite, you don’t have to invite your extended family over, and if something’s too much and there’s no one you can ask – don’t to it.
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